So many horrific stories of abuse start with “he was great until we got married” and that’s honestly so fucking upsetting because it’s relatively normal.
Like so many women are so, so careful before they commit to a man in any way because he could turn out to be a horrible abuser. They find one they think is different, one they think they can trust, and as soon as they’re legally bound to him he turns out to be exactly what they feared he would be.
That’s horrible.
And, I can say from personal experience, it is embarrassing to get divorced almost immediately after being married. No one cares about how long you were together beforehand or what happened, they just think “Oh it only lasted a year, she’s so irresponsible”. On top of it being exceedingly difficult to get help from the police or other legal assistance(especially if you live together, share funds, children, property, etc.), there’s a heavy stigma that comes with it, only isolating abuse victims further.
I’m trying to think of something to say other than “boycott marriage” because I know that’s not realistic, but at the very least, please support divorced women.
By “support divorced women” I mean:
- don’t make us justify why we got divorced and don’t feel entitled to the details of what happened.
- don’t contribute to the stigma around divorced women that says we’re irresponsible, or that something must be wrong with us.
- If a woman close to you is getting divorced, don’t guilt her into apologizing or going back to her husband. If she’s the one filing, don’t make her question why she wants the divorce.
theres something that feels very colonial/imperialist about superfood fads
the idea that a rare and exotic grain or berry from some pristine Ecuadorian mountain or a salt slab from “the himalayas”(those are all mined in Pakistan) will suddenly cure you with their magical benefits is all pseudoscience. eating more fresh produce is definitely good but the “magical nutrients” of those superfoods are no different than common produce, and there’s no food that makes you slimmer that’s not how calories work, its snake oil. and it causes damage from overfarming and making a once staple food in a community inaccessible when its value soars, leaving them open to predation from food giant.
anyways i’m just tired of Bethany from facebook bragging about “discovering” the health magic of some new plant from cambodia or whatever, but in reality it’s advertisers making this shit tantalising to justify an insane price markup of a superfood and playing to that colonial mindset that things from a foreign far away land used traditionally by its natives is instantly mystical and cool so you want it. frankly it reminds of the victorian’s egyptomania craze when people believed in the health properties of mummies
I used to write mini-cookbooks. One month, I decided the theme would be superfoods, and I started looking up lists of superfoods. And then trying to figure out what qualifies something as a “superfood.*
It is basically every fucking unprocessed food. All veggies, all fruits, all grains and nuts and seeds, all meats.
Even milk. Even potatoes. Even rice, as long as it’s not white rice. Even wheat, as long as it’s whole wheat.
They’ve all turned up somewhere on someone’s list of superfoods you just HAVE to try. And then the person goes on about all the vitamins and minerals and amino acids in there. All the protein, or the fiber, or the nice healthy fats.
Literally, almost every damn thing you can eat is a superfood.
And yes, definitely, if they can somehow be described as Ancient or Exotic or both, they get a thousand times the attention. Because that plays into all these racist biases, and there’s somebody behind the scenes marketing the shit out of that.
And when you can’t label it as Exotic and Ancient? The reason that people can write big ridiculous articles about all the incredible health benefits you would never have imagined were in The Lowly Sweet Potato or The Humble Apple is that they’ve spent decades telling us that everything is bad for you.
That being fat is bad, (which it is not), and that eating will make you fat – unless you eat and do only the specific, temporarily-approved things that they’re currently making money by promoting!
It’s fucking decades and decades of telling people that certain foods will make you good and approved of and gorgeous and finally have self esteem lose weight and certain foods will make you bad, disapproved of, stared at and insulted and unattractive fat. Because that is what sells – but you have to keep changing the story if you want to keep making money off this stuff.
When you take a second to say “OMG there are sooooooooo many nutrients in this one weird fruit?!!!!!!!!!????! DOCTORS HATE US,” it’s ridiculously easy to sell as a “superfood.” Because people aren’t used to thinking of food, overall, as healthy. Or as fuel.
The message for so long has been “there are a few isolated things that it’s okay to eat, like tofuorganiccaroblow-cal (insert current fad here)!” that we totally believe them when they tell us that nutritionally dense foods are a rarity that everyone should freak out about.
seems that it’s made some cats sicker (puking uncontrollably) and has been infested with bugs often, also in general, i think it’s probably just low grade and can give cats problems (like purina for dogs)
What’s wrong with the bird cage? I could understand that it could be too small for a large bird like a parrot, but what about a canary?
Nope. That cage is far too small to be used as a home for any kind of bird. It’s acceptable as a travel cage for small birds, or as a sleeping only cage. But songbirds deserve to have room to move around and fly too.
For Canaries and finches, it’s recommended they have at least a 3 foot cage!
Canaries are birds that need to fly. They were not meant to be domesticated and profited from as pets. They are highly active birds that will self harm from stress in such confined spaces. Canaries are delightful to have in groups, though they are fine on their own, but every 1 bird adds 3 cubic feet to the space needed. They need multiple perches and toys. These are examples of proper Canary or other small bird enclosures.
Meow Mix is a horrible brand of cat food, I used to feed it to my cats and they would just throw it back up. It’s so low quality that half of the ingredients aren’t even food items. The meat is all scrap by products from slaughterhouses like hooves, eyes, tails and fat because it’s cheap. Which is something they don’t list on the packaging to fool pet owners. I always used to find worms in my bags of Meow Mix. Beneful literally uses antifreeze in it’s food, which has lead to the deaths of thousands of dogs a year. From conditions such as internal bleeding, seizures and cancers.
Rabbits shouldn’t be confined to a cage. (Especially a dog cage..?) Rabbits are curious creatures that need to jump, run, chew and play to be healthy. Keeping them locked in a cage 24/7 as a toy for your kids will make them sick or develop aggression from stress. Healthy rabbit lifespans are 10+ years. Rabbit cages should only be a place for your rabbit to use the litterbox and sleep after a long day of exercise and play. Also, never keep two rabbits together unless they are fixed. Rabbits are territorial and they will either fight or mate rapidly when intact. Up to 14 babies every month. This is the proper set up for a rabbit.
I’m cringing at that rainbow “my mommy got me a cute hamster” rodent cage. These are small creatures that need to run around and explore.They need to burrow and chew.This is the proper set up for a hamster or other small rodent.
Betta fishget stressed from any confinement under 5 gallons. They are the worst pet for being sold to kids as “accessories” in small cubed tanks. When kept like that the fish will die a horribly stressed life within a year when they can live for 7 or more. They need calm filtration with many dark caves and soft plants. They are aggressive to other fish. These fish are so intelligent that they actually play with you, and they need mental stimulation to live healthy. These are proper Betta setups.
Who the fuck would even feed an omnivorous bearded dragon pellet food…? Do they want a sick pet? If pet stores even bothered to care about the keeping of exotic pets, they would know that shit is bad for them. If you can’t feed live meal worms and crickets than you shouldn’t own an exotic pet in the first place. Pellet food isn’t even real food, it’s chemically made with preservatives.
Based in Tokyo, Japanese designer monde has created a new category of art and design—bookshelf dioramas. His wood inserts transform ordinary bookshelves into something magical and bring the feel of a Japanese back alley into your home.
Inspired by Tokyo, his work carefully mirrors the dizzying feeling of wandering the city’s back alleys. Monde has been working on the project for two years, using different materials to create the look and feel of the city. He’s even added lights to some models, which give a soft glow that emanates from the bookshelf. This newer model is also sized perfectly to sit between paperback novels.
i feel like i’d enjoy being an assassin if it didn’t involve killing people
what if instead of killing people you got hired to just ruin their day. like the mafia or someone paid you to park behind someone’s car so they can’t back out of a spot when they’re in a rush in the morning and you make them late for work.
i would enjoy that immensely
there is a long list of people that i would gladly do that to without payment
This is how low-tier supervillains start.
“As far back as I can remember, I always wanted to be an asshole.”
A magical girl series where the girls transform into their DnD characters.
Imagine being a typical shojo super villain and seeing an anime girl transform into a fucking Orc.
Not even a cute anime Orc, just a realistically drawn Warcraft Orc named Mo’Gar Skullcrush or something.
None of the girls in the group transform into cute Elves. It’s just Lady Stormbeard the Dwarf ranger. Skeletal Lich Bellinde Bloodless. GrhhuHghh the Goblin cleric. Every villain they meet is fucking terrified.
Some of the best writing advice I ever got was if you’re stuck on a scene or a line, the problem is actually about 10 lines back and that’s saved me from writer’s block so many times.
I feel like I need an elaborate explanation
Often times, I find myself stuck on what a character should say next or what should happen in a scene to connect A to B or so on. When this happens, I fall into the trap of writing and rewriting the same few lines over and over, and becoming more and more dissatisfied every time until I give up.
But problem is almost never actually whatever line I’m trying to write at the moment; the issue is the stuff leading up to the line. Maybe there are structural issues with the set up, maybe I wrote a bit of dialogue that was out of character leading to a discussion that doesn’t make sense, maybe I’m missing a vital piece of exposition or expositing too much. It could be a lot of things, but the important part of the advice is to look back and be willing to consider changes to something earlier in the work (even if you’re really attached to like a piece of dialogue or a particular sentence or something) instead of trying to find a way to force out a scene that’s not working.
That makes a lot of sense. Thanks for explaining!
This is really helpful!
Woah! I never thought about that! Thanks!
Some much this. Yesterday I was having the hardest time with a scene but pushed it anyway cause I needed my word count for the day. This morning I realized that while the events made sense for the main characters, the actions of the side or background characters made no sense. So yeah, if you’re stuck, look for what’s on the page that’s causing it.
